Thanksgiving seems to kick off the Holiday season with families gathering together for that special meal. Then over the next couple of months we continue with celebrations unique to our culture and beliefs.
The one thing they all have in common is the gathering of family and friends. If that gathering doesn't always turn out like you would like it to here are a few tips I have learned along the way.
- Let go of expectations -Chances are your family cannot and will not ever resemble a Norman Rockwell painting. Get over it.
- Don't let other peoples rudeness or poor behavior affect your day-If you know that Aunt Sue and Uncle Jim always show up 30 minutes late either tell them you are starting 30 minutes earlier or simply start without them. It isn't worth getting upset over.
- Remember why you are gathering - It is not about the food or decorations being perfect. It's about connecting with one another. Turkey came out a little dry? Put some gravy on it and move on with the day. Chances are no one will remember that you over cooked the turkey or your famous souffle fell on it's face but they will remember your attitude. They will remember the gracious way you handled the day even with a few mishaps along the way.
- Leave the heavy discussions for long after the meal - Table all heavy discussions that you know will be heated until long after the meal. Let your guests know that the dinner table is reserved for light conversation and gratitude and any "family business" will be discussed later in the day. That way you will all have time to reconnect and reflect before tackling any serious family issues.
- Share Your Gratitude - Have each person at the table share 3 things they are grateful for. As everybody reflects on what they are grateful for any tension will be released.
Enjoy the Holidays with your family while you are still all able to be together. The time will come when that will no longer be possible.
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