She calls me to complain that I never come to visit her any more when I was just there today!! I know it is the Dementia. She simply can't remember that I was there. I hate the idea that she thinks I don't care and don't come to visit her.
This is a story I hear often and I live it myself also. My husband and I often get these calls, "Why don't you come see me sometime?" It is heartbreaking and frustrating at the same time. I was talking to a friend about this the other day and she had an excellent suggestion I would like to pass along.
Leave something in the room to remind her of the visit, a card perhaps where you write something like " I had a great day today taking you shopping, or eating ice cream together or whatever it is that you did together. Just something to remind her you were there and to maybe jog her memory a little.
A Note could also be posted on a dry erase board. Make sure you put the day and time you were there. I love this idea! At least I won't feel so bad thinking that she is depressed believing that we never come to see her.
Another idea I thought of was to take pictures every time you are together. Then have the pictures printed into a collage. This way she will always be reminded that you care.
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